Commit your work to the Lord, and your plans will be established. Proverbs 16:3 In April of 1999, Scott and I received the devastating news we would most likely be unable to conceive children of our own. It was a Wednesday and that night during choir practice we both struggled to sing about the faithfulness of God. We felt abandoned and forgotten by the very God about which we were singing. Our plans were not to be. And we were faced with a choice: would we trust God even when it was hard and ... [Read More]

The wisest of women builds her house, but folly with her own hands tears it down. Proverbs 14:1 We’ve never built a house before … but I hear it can be one of the hardest things a married couple ever does. Making all those decisions about light fixtures and paint colors opens the door for all kinds of disagreement, I suppose. But what about building a home? Why don’t we ever seriously consider how hard that task it? Scott and I have been married for almost 19 years and in that time we’ve ... [Read More]

An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who brings shame is like rottenness in his bones. Proverbs 12:4 Oh y’all … ever smelled some rotten potatoes? We had some a few months ago in our pantry. It was G.R.O.S.S. The odor was overpowering and it took several methods to finally get rid of it. When I read this verse in Proverbs, I think about how awful that rotten smell is. I don’t want to be the rotten smell in my marriage. What does it mean to bring our husbands shame? For ... [Read More]

Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life. Proverbs 4:23 Pornography. Adultery. Financial strain. Prodigal children. Workaholics. Addiction. Stress. Fear. Insecurities. Doubts. Past history. The battle for keeping our marriages in tact isn’t easy. And the truth is, marriages rarely fall apart because of one big thing … marriages collapse because we haven’t paid attention to all the little things. Often, we neglect those small ways of encouraging one ... [Read More]

The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge; fools despise wisdom and instruction. Proverbs 1:7 If there is one thing I have learned after nearly 19 years of marriage, it’s this: I don’t know. I don’t know the right answers. Sometimes I don’t even know the right questions. I don’t know how to do it all. I don’t know if I want to be able to anyway. I don’t know why some days everything gets on my nerves. I don’t know how to keep the laundry caught up. I don’t know how to make ... [Read More]

Bless the Lord, O my soul, and all that is within me, bless His holy name! Psalm 103:1 Sometimes we look around and only see what is missing. We forget how much God has given us and how full our lives truly are. As a couple, it is important for us to speak truth into each other’s lives. As we pray for each other and for our marriages, one of the important things we need to remember is to praise God. Praise comes from a grateful heart … a deep recognition of the ways God provides and protects ... [Read More]